Are You Daydreaming Your Life Away?

What is Maladaptive Daydreaming?

Our "poster child" Cordellia Amethyste Rose gives her thoughts on the subject of Maladaptive Daydreaming (long video.) Her website/forum is: http://wildminds.ning.com/

Posted by daydreamingdisorder on November 9, 2010 at 9:05 PM 7949 Views

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Reply Bob
3:42 PM on September 21, 2014 
Great video. Many thanks. I started around 1st grade. I'm now in my 60s. It has definitely interfered and been a negative in many ways, but it was probably better than drugs or other escapes. TV and news definitely a trigger. My daydreams are narcissistic in nature--in my daydream I'm important, successful, etc, . I'm introverted and isolation and lonliness are triggers. Creative writing for me is a great/effective treatment. I am writing my second musical.
Reply satish
8:10 AM on July 18, 2014 
I am 34 year old from India. I have been day dreaming since my childhood, may be from the age of 5. In the beigning it was ok. But at the age of around 15 or 16 it completely took over myself. I could not do anything except daydreaming. Execpt for the sleeping hours rest of the day I was daydreaming. I could not concentrate, I could not intreact with people properply, I could not study and so on. I was wondering what casued me to day dream soo much? Finally I got my answer. I had emotionally & verbally abusive parents, Which resulted in depression, inferiority complex, negative thinking, negative self talk, panic attack. This affected my acedemic performance. I was below average student, with very low self-esteem. I was treated the same way by my teachers, friends, colleuges, as my parents treated me. To escape from all this I completely embrassed daydreaming. But now I am feeling the effects of it. I am unemployed can not do any job properly, I have no friends, no socail life at all. I am trying very hard to come out of this but there is very little change. Hope this site will help me.
Reply jimmy
8:49 AM on April 9, 2014 
you know guys i had it too and i have it and little now but i am telling you that this md have solution. firths you have to go psychologist. you can writing that story! but the real story with your thinkings and not the fantasy story "i am a star and i am maried and i have lot of money"!! you can go to psychiatrist its not bad, you know you dont have to scary that you gonna leave from there and you gonna have a bag with full of pills!! he can give you syrup with 2 ml is like when you have flu and your mom give a spoon with a syrup to be ok. and Why i for example i am suffer... while i can drink one small pill every night. and yes you may have some Adverse Effects but there willi gone when the therapy finish. i feel a lot better and because there was my psychologist and he give me a support now i can tell that i am a lot better.
Reply UM
2:23 PM on November 30, 2013 
Hi, I've been doing this for years now. I find it interrupts with my life SO much, I spend hours and hours daydreaming away listening to music or laying in bed, even in lectures my mind just wanders off. I hate it, because before i know it the whole days gone and I've done nothing at all. I can't get that time back.
Reply Ella
2:12 PM on October 19, 2013 
I've had this since I was 4 years old. I'm 13 now. My daydreams are like a tv series, and I've included the same people in it since I can remember. The characters grow up when I grow up, go through similar things that I do- it helps me deal with problems in my life. I think I'm imagining a life in which I'd rather have. I'm imagining people I'd rather be friends with, people I'd rather be instead of myself. I actually include characters that are real people, like celebrities or people that I know and see at school. Even though for some of them I've completely created from my own head, using images that I've seen on the internet to generate their appearance. I find that I have to stare at a certain image before daydreaming to get their image back in my head, because most of the time my brain is flooded with other pictures. I have to watch a video or look at an image of the person repetitively until I believe that I can finally see them clear enough. I'm attached to the characters and the world I've created (it's kind of like a magical sort of world, yet there are a lot of elements of the real world in it, too) and I don't plan on stopping this anytime soon.

I've made good use of this, though... considering I've made my characters famous actors, they star in different tv shows that I create- and I'm turning these different shows into stories. It's like I'm turning these fake realities into real ones.

Thanks for taking the time to read this long story. I just felt I needed to get my experiences out there. I hope this helps in whatever way.
Reply AJ
11:58 AM on September 11, 2013 
Its good to know Im not completely crazy I grew up daydreaming fantacy and now I daydream about past conversations and how they should of gone or convos im going to have with people. I wave my hands scratch my nose its embarrassing sometimes i do it in front of ppl, mostly i daydream in the shower, or getting ready, i daydream in the car while driving which is unsafe i need help, its prob going to get worse when i lose my job idk :/
Reply Sam
9:44 AM on August 23, 2013 
I've daydream all my life. You are right about some things:
- Daydream should not take over your life, but you can use it to pump up your self esteem and clear up your perspective.
- Daydreams can be addictive when you have other emotional or mental conditions to deal with, but it can help you to get out of those difficult situations. Specially when there is something you want to do but you just won't do, because you know the consequences will destroy you and others; daydreaming can get you out of that if you use those ideal worlds to be possible things in your life.

I had an episode in my life that lasted a year, trying to overcome a situation that I still don't understand, but I lived it. Day dreaming help me not to make stupid decisions and now I am making music and writing about it and about other stuff that I want to share.

Do something good out of your day dreaming, it is a creative process that works for you so it will definitely work for others. Don't judge yourself but don't allow yourself to be negligent with your life and those around you, you'll see that if you use daydreams to create new perspectives in life and find a creative way to share it, you'll feel like a child living a real fantasy... of course keeping the your feet on the ground and not harming anyone... I think daydreaming is about freedom of the soul and mind and this society we live I, is constantly enclosing us in a very small box that not even this planet is able to handle.... Take care... and keep day dreaming and creating worlds that will help you to be yourself and find freedom and happiness...
Reply Alexis
4:10 PM on August 15, 2013 
Hello, im 14 and i've been daydreaming since i was 9 years old. i stay in bed for hours in the morning day dreaming and waste so much time. I have this "story" in my mind where I live in a world with other characters, some who are actually real people. It's an alternate world where me, my relationships with other people, and my life in general is drastically different from my life in reality. I like to listen to music and play with putty or clay while i day dream. Sometimes I have to contain my laughter in public or cover my mouth with my hands because i'm making a facial expression. i'm often embarrassed when i'm caught laughing or scowling for what appears to be no reason by my friends or family. I've always had very bad anxiety problems and daydreaming has always been my way of escaping the stress i would feel everyday. I was so happy to find i'm not the only one who does this.
Reply Anna
4:56 AM on July 4, 2013 
MD cost me an education because the daydream binges are uncontrollable! I never had kids or entered a healthy relationship because of it. I had to get really good at picking up the pieces last minute. I have always had it.
Reply Amie Walter
6:32 PM on June 2, 2013 
I have such a day dreaming problem that if i am not talking, reading, watching tv, or listening to something, I am day dreaming. I day dream while I drive, I day dream instead of hanging with my family. My son sees me day dreaming and says " MOM your lips are moving" i know I have a problem but Dr's and counselors won't talk about it. Maybe it is their ignorance or something. I need help though because day dreaming while driving is dangerous. God help me please.
Reply zamzam
12:34 PM on February 21, 2013 
hi am 14 years old and i had this problem since i was 9 or 10 i do feel embarrsed having this condition and i never told anybody about it. i thought it was normal at first but then i start realising that i start laughing and talking to myself. i always had this one characer in my head since i could remember and i planned out her birthday her husband kids everything for her even her name! am so glad that am not the only one with this condition and i could talk to people about this!
Reply Bethany
7:57 PM on January 30, 2013 
I have this problem. I am 24 and I have been daydreaming for 10 years. My daydreams never center around me although sometimes I do include myself in them. My daydreams are like a Harry Potter fanfiction playing through my head. I initially started daydreaming alternative endings to the third and fourth Harry Potter books. I remember a few years ago I tried to find information about excessive daydreaming and didn't find anything that sounded like what I have. Now I have found the answer. Thank you.
Reply Alli
8:49 PM on August 11, 2012 
I always knew something was wrong with me,I daydream all the time I always felt this.I don't fit in.I have. been doing this since primary school.I have report cards from primary school. that said I was a daydreamer.As a kid I always used to listen to music, that was the start of my daydreams, then films/tv now just anything work,news,book a story you read/heard.I know I am know risking my ownn health but I cant help it as I get older I get more and more into dreamworld.As usual I set deadline to break it but its hard.
Reply CAROLINA
12:57 PM on February 13, 2012 
Hi, I have just watch your video and I just came to realized that I have this contition.
I can racall have in it since ia was 5 years old....now i am 46 and i am really concerned because as you mention it can be a creative way of having my own thought for whom i do not find response outside, but lately everytime i daydream i feel terribly lonely and while i am daydreaming i have a knot in my thoat...Also the fantasies are so ridicules for a woman of my age....and it has started to inetrfired with my life.
I live in México City and I have not foun someone that have ever heard about this contition, so for me this is the first time i talk about it.
Thanks for your videos...I do not fell so lonely any more...